Take Pause

The pause button for couples in conflict.

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do in a difficult conversation is stop having it for a moment.

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What it is

A simple way for partners in conflict to take a pause, hold space, and come back together.

Create space.

When things get heated, you don't have to solve everything right now. Take Pause gives you a simple ritual for pausing, settling, and coming back intentionally.

Space isn't abandonment.

If you're connected with your partner, Take Pause can let them know you're taking a pause — and later, that you're ready to reconnect.

Start a pauseTwo taps. No confirm screen.
Durations5 · 10 · 20 · 30 · 45 · 60 min, or no timer
DuringNo sound, no guidance, nothing to do
SignalsI'm ready · I'm still here · I need more time

Where this comes from

Take Pause was built by someone who desperately needed it to exist to save his relationship. Its approach is backed by academic research freely available to the public:

  1. Levenson, R. W., & Gottman, J. M. (1985). Physiological and affective predictors of change in relationship satisfaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 49(1), 85–94.
  2. Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233.
  3. Reis, H. T., Clark, M. S., & Holmes, J. G. (2004). Perceived partner responsiveness as an organizing construct in the study of intimacy and closeness.
  4. Pilgrim, R. B. (1986). Intervals ("Ma") in space and time: Foundations for a religio-aesthetic paradigm in Japan. History of Religions, 25(3), 255–277.
  5. Nitschke, G. (1966). MA: The Japanese sense of place. Architectural Design, 36(3), 116–156.

Take Pause is a communication and pause tool, not therapy or crisis support. It doesn't determine who is right or wrong, diagnose anyone, or replace professional help. If you feel unsafe, prioritize your physical safety rather than using the app to manage the conflict.